Newcomers tend to hit some roadblocks along their Step journey. One of the biggest is their concern about the Step Nine amends.
First, some wonder why they are going through with this at all. “What’s the point?” they ask. Second, most will definitely worry about how the people they approach will respond:
“Will they get mad?”
“Will it bring up old wounds?”
“Will she leave me for admitting what I did?”
“Might he threaten me when finding out what I did?”
“Will my employer call the cops?”
“Will I be charged with a crime?”
“Will he ask me to do something unreasonable to amend what I’ve done?”
Finally, there other such questions about the process:
“What if I make things right but then I screw up again?”
“Am I amending with this person for the right reasons?”
There are countless tales of amends to reassure these concerns. Care to share yours?
Perhaps you have a story of how something didn’t go so well. Share that, too, as a lesson in undertaking this amazing process.
Whether a newcomer or olde tymer, these stories of intimate connections–of making our spirit whole–are an inspiration for all.