couples Archives - Dan Griffin https://dangriffin.com/tag/couples/ A Man's Way - Helping Men Be Better Men Mon, 21 Jan 2019 15:43:31 +0000 en-US hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=6.4.3 What Men Would Tell You… About What They’re Thinking https://dangriffin.com/women-what-men-would-tell-you/ Mon, 21 May 2018 23:53:28 +0000 https://dangriffin.com/?p=7463 Dr. Allen Berger is back to help Dan introduce an exciting new monthly project for The Man Rules podcast! Dan and Allen are working on a book called What Men Would Tell You… If They Weren’t Too Busy Watching TV....

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What Men Would Tell You If They Weren't Too Busy Watching TV - A Book for Women about Relationships by Dan Griffin and Dr. Allen Berger

Dr. Allen Berger is back to help Dan introduce an exciting new monthly project for The Man Rules podcast! Dan and Allen are working on a book called What Men Would Tell You… If They Weren’t Too Busy Watching TV. It’s geared toward women who find the behavior of their male partners and/or spouses to be…puzzling, to say the least. Actually, it’s for all women in a relationship looking to better connect with the man in her life. The book doesn’t ask women to adjust their own personalities or behaviors, but instead gives them tips for creating space for understanding and cooperation.

All of that is pretty exciting, right? But, here’s the really exciting part. Each month, they’ll be answering relationship questions and sharing comments from YOU, Man Rules podcast listeners!  If you’re stuck in a relationship rut, need some perspective on what your partner could possibly be thinking, and/or want to share what you wish your partner understood about you, email [email protected].

Practical and Tactical

  1. To be more personal, you have to stop taking things so personally.
  2. When you encounter a problem, draw a circle and put yourself in the middle. Ask yourself questions like, “What part of this problem is created by my expectations? By my way of thinking about this situation? By my interpretation of what’s happening? By my lack of faith in my ability to grow?”
  3. Get rid of the blame game. It doesn’t help anything. That doesn’t mean to just let someone off the hook for their behavior. It does mean that you always have a decision on how you respond to someone else’s behavior and how it is going to impact your relationship with them.

About Our Guest

Allen Berger, Ph.D., is an internationally recognized expert in family and couples therapy, and in the science of addiction and recovery. He is best known for his work on integrating modern psychotherapy with the 12 Steps of Alcoholics Anonymous and for his insights into emotional sobriety. He is also recognized for his outstanding work as a psychotherapist and trainer.

He brings a highly unique background to his profession. His own personal journey in recovery started in 1971, on the beautiful island of Oahu, Hawaii. There he fell in love with recovery and with helping people find their way out of the abyss of addiction into the light of recovery. He overcame dropping out of high school, and received a doctorate in clinical psychology from UC Davis in 1987.He was trained and mentored by two brilliant clinicians: William C. Rader, M.D. and Walter Kempler, M.D..

He is the author of several journal articles as well as two books: Love Secrets – Revealed (HCI Books, 2006) and the bestseller, 12 Stupid Things that Mess up Recovery (Hazelden, 2008)). His pamphlet How to Get the Most out of Group Therapy (Hazelden, 2007) helps new admissions understand the process of group therapy and how to use the group to optimize their experience in treatment.

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