American philosopher Ralph Waldo Emerson said that true success is “… to appreciate the beauty, to find the best in others, to leave the world a bit better…”

Clearly, that guy never had two kids and a mortgage.

In this episode, Dan and Allen talk about the Man Rule that often drives many of men’s decisions about their work and personal lives–The Success Rule. Success for men is often defined by having a lot of money, having a prestigious job title, and having the most sex with the hottest women. Sadly, it can lead to men choosing careers they aren’t really interested in and choosing relationships based in status-seeking, rather than the desire for a real, intimate partnership.

Dan and Allen encourage men to take a look at their own definitions of success and to ask themselves if it’s really their own definition or one that they’ve just absorbed through The Water.

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As men, we often define ourselves by degrees of career success. It’s not enough to produce good work–you have to produce the best work. It’s not enough to provide a modest, but comfortable living for yourself and/or your family–you have to provide enough for the bigger houses, the best neighborhoods, the best schools. It’s not enough to have published a couple of books that you’re proud of–maybe they could have been New York Times bestsellers if you’d have worked harder. Whether your job is in a business setting, or inside your home as the caretaker for your family, it’s not enough to just be present and try to contribute to the whole in a way that’s authentic and meaningful to you–if you aren’t making tons of money or getting tons of recognition for it, haven’t you failed somehow?

In this very special solo episode of the podcast, Dan says, “Nope” and “Fuck you.” JUST KIDDING. Instead, he speaks very sincerely about his own struggles with having enough and being enough. And, about his own uncertainty as to whether his drive for greater and greater success in the field of men’s health and recovery over the past decade was really born of his own true passions, or from an unconscious acceptance of The Man Rule that told him what kind of success he should want.

We’d love to hear your own stories about this struggle, which we know is a common one for so many people. Hop over to our brand-new, closed Facebook group, to talk about it with other like-minded men and women.

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On this week’s episode, he and Dan talk about the ways that men can unpack their fantasies–whether they involve sex, money, fame, power, or all of the above–to find out who they really are and who they want to be. They also discuss all the reasons you need to make peace with your shadow side, and how to ask yourself the kinds of questions that will help you have a real and lasting impact on your work, on your love life, and on the world.

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Practical & Tactical

1. Become aware of the things you avoid and start to lean into them. How are those things shaping the results you achieve at work and in life? How are they shaping your intimate relationships? How are they shaping who you are as a man?
2. Get familiar with your shadow side. Take a deep look at the parts of yourself that you tend to want to hide. Think about how you can be vulnerable about those things in a way that is conscientious and helps you connect with others.
3. All men want to be great in bed. Think about what your fantasies are. What/Who do you objectify and why? Where do those fantasies come from and why do they exist? Recognizing these things will help you move past objectification and allow you to connect with your partner(s) and stay present in each moment.

About Our Guest

Connor Beaton is the founder of ManTalks, an international organization focused on men’s health, wellness, success, and fulfilment. Connor is also an international speaker, podcast host, CEO, and leader of ManTalks mission to build a global brotherhood. business coach and lifestyle entrepreneur. Before founding ManTalks, Connor had a brief career as an opera singer and worked at Apple, leading high-performance sales and operations teams. Since founding ManTalks, Connor has spoken on stage at TEDx, taken ManTalks to over a dozen cities internationally and has been featured on platforms like Forbes, Influencive, HeForShe, The Good Men Project, UN Women, CBC, CBS, and the National Post.

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