Love they neighbor as thyself just might be one of the oldest “relationship tips” of all time. But how can you begin to have healthy relationships with the people around you, and the people you love, if you DON’T love yourself? Or at least, if you don’t love yourself enough?
This week on The Man Rules podcast, psychologist Ross Rosenberg and host Dan Griffin explore the paradox of “self-love deficiency disorder,” which sends men seeking healing into situations that can hurt them even further.
Whether by choosing the wrong mate, falling into the cycle of pathological care-giving, and more, self-love deficiency can poison men’s most intimate relationships.
If you think you might have a self-love deficiency, how can you begin? Listen to this week’s episode and check out the resources below for more information, or start with these tips and tricks.
Practical Tips & Tricks
- If you think you have a self-love deficiency, ask yourself with every major decision: Will this help me build my feelings of self-love?
- If you’d like to take a deeper look at the issues affecting your relationships and psychological well-being, check out the Self-Love Recovery Institute.
- Watch Ross’s YouTube videos for even more practical approaches on improving your relationships and your life.
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About Our Guest
Ross Rosenberg, M.Ed., LCPC, CADC, CSAT has been a psychotherapist since 1988. He is a distinguished international speaker, writer, trainer,consultant, and expert in the addiction/sex addiction codependency, narcissism, and trauma fields. He owns ClinicalCare Consultants, a multi-location Chicago suburb counseling center, and Self-Love Recovery Institute, formerly Advanced Clinical Trainers.
Ross wrote the highly acclaimed and best-selling book “The Human Magnet Syndrome: Why We Love People Who Hurt Us,” which draws on his own codependency recovery and 30 years of experience in the mental health, social service, and child welfare fields. It has been published in both French and Spanish.
Ross is an internationally renowned psychotherapist, speaker, and trainer, who has presented in 27 states and twice in Europe. Because of his YouTube channel, his work has gone globally viral. Of the more than 6.0 million total views, 4 million have been in the last two years. His current subscriber base is at 53,000 and is growing at 23K a year.
Mentioned In This Episode
Human Magnet Syndrome (Book)
Spanish Human Magnet Syndrome (Book)
About The Man Rules Podcast Host, Dan Griffin
Dan Griffin, M.A., is an internationally recognized author, thought leader, and expert on men’s relationships and masculinity. His work and life is dedicated to exploring and redefining what it means to be a man in the 21st century. Dan is dedicated to helping men be better men by understanding the impact of the Man Rules on their lives and finding the success in their personal lives they are striving for in the professional lives. His professional background includes over two decades in the mental health and addictions field. Dan earned a Master’s degree in Sociology from the University of Kansas where his graduate work was the first qualitative study centered on the social construction of masculinity in the culture of Alcoholics Anonymous. Dan grew up in the DC area and lives in Los Angeles with his wife, Nancy, and his daughter, Grace, and has been in long-term recovery from addiction since he graduated college in May of 1994.
