Are we entering into a new age of sexual anxiety? Research shows that younger generations are having less sex these days than you’d think, given the proliferation of internet porn, location-based “dating” sites, and sexting. Instead of making people feel…
Episode 33: It Ain’t Just About Getting Laid
Man Rule #1: Real men have as much sex as possible whenever possible with as many hot and different chicks as possible with as big of a dick as possible. So, if you are a man, and find yourself craving…
Practical & Tactical Tips: Grow Up, Man! (Episode 32)
Living life in recovery can be challenging on even the best of days. (Of course, the hardest day sober is still better than the best day living under the thumb of addition.) But with the world more on edge than…
Episode 32: Grow Up, Man! Allen Berger on the 12 Tenets of Emotional Sobriety
Level 1 of recovery is the struggle to gain sobriety from the substance or behavior that has taken control of your life. Level 2 of recovery is the struggle to gain real emotional sobriety and balance by gaining humility in our…
Practical & Tactical Tips: The Gift of Desperation (Episode 31)
Addiction may be cunning, baffling, and powerful, but it is also possible. Amid all the onslaught of disturbing statistics about our country’s addiction epidemic, it can be easy to lose sight of the individual rays of hope that personal recovery stories…
Episode 31: The Deep Dive Guys on the Gift of Desperation
People in recovery speak a language that makes a lot of us uncomfortable. In a culture where we’re told repeatedly to put only our best foot forward and treat emotion like it’s an inconvenience that only serves to get in…
Episode 30: When Bad Diseases Happen to Good People
In the absence of an answer as to the true cause of the illness, we often invent one. (See Episode 27 with Dr. Kevin McCauley for more on this.) Throughout human history, people have sought to explain illnesses through an…
Practical & Tactical Tips: All In The Fam Damily (Episode 29)
Addiction is a family disease, and it takes its toll on everyone caught in its web. That might be even more true when it comes to children, who are forced to grow up in a home filled with volatility, fear,…
Practical & Tactical Tips: When You Need Help Getting Help (Episode 28)
This week, Google suddenly announced that they’d stopped running ads for treatment centers. The recovery world was rocked, but it was welcomed by many as a sign that Google had recognized that shady centers were gaming the system. Now, the…
Episode 29: All in the Fam Damily – Dr. Tian Dayton on Emotional Sobriety and Adult Children of Addicted Families
The day that a child raised in addiction finally becomes an adult and sets out into the world on their own, is the day they finally feel free. Free from the chaos and the pressure and the terror that comes…
Episode 28: When You Need Help Getting Help
If you saw that someone you loved was on fire, running wildly down the street, you’d probably chase after them with a bucket of water. But, if you suspected that same loved one was struggling with an addictive disorder, you…
Practical & Tactical Tips: Hey Addiction, WTF?! (Episode 27)
People recovering from addiction often like to say that the disease is “cunning, baffling, and powerful.” And although many aspects of addiction and recovery are debatable, we can all probably agree that it’s true. Humans have been suffering from and…
Episode 27: Hey, Addiction! WTF?
Addiction means that you can’t stop; but, some people eventually can. Addiction is a medical condition; but, it’s also a spiritual condition. Addiction is caused by societal and psychological factors and not by the drugs; but, sometimes it is caused…
Practical Tips & Tricks: Self Love Is So Unmanly (Episode 26)
Love they neighbor as thyself just might be one of the oldest “relationship tips” of all time. But how can you begin to have healthy relationships with the people around you, and the people you love, if you DON’T love…
Episode 26: Self-Love Is So Unmanly! Ross Rosenberg on Narcissism, Addiction, and Self-Love Deficiency in Men
They’re sexy, they’re interesting, and they ignore you. Obviously, they’re your type. Your intense attraction to this person must be love. So, you enter into a relationship. Soon, your dream lover morphs into a bit of a nightmare. They’re a…
Episode 25: I Learned It By Watching You – Dan on the Realities of Addiction & Recovery
Reality can be a real buzzkill. While it’s true that most people can drink alcohol, use prescription pain killers, and even experiment with recreational drugs without becoming addicted, it’s also true that one in seven people in the United States…
Practical & Tactical Tips: An Eyebrow-Raising Approach To Personal Success (Episode 24)
How do you define success? For so long, we’ve been culturally conditioned to think that fame and fortune are the ever-elusive pot of gold at the end of the rainbow, but more and more, people are rejecting that framework in…
Episode 24: An Eyebrow-Raising Approach to Personal Success – Jason Hewlett on Personal Integrity and ‘The Promise’
“All the world’s a stage,” and every writer (and/or podcast producer) makes a promise to trot out this tired old Shakespearian cliche every time we’re describing an entertainer who has something to teach us about life. It’s one of our…
Practical & Tactical Tips: The Deep Dive Guys Start Making Cents (Episode 23)
Mo’ money, mo’ problems. It’s more than just a rap lyric! Sometimes it seems like the more you spend, save, and just plain go about your life in a world full of money, the more complicated life can be. But oddly,…
Episode 22: The Deep Dive Guys Start Making Cents! Dan Griffin, Tim Walsh, and Michael Dinneen Talk Money
Folks, do you like a good bargain? Then you’re going to LOVE the deal we’re offering to you, and only you, our best listeners, on this episode of The Man Rules podcast! If you listen now, you’ll get to hear…
Practical & Tactical Tips: The Generational Gender Shift (Episode 22)
We hear a lot about how millennials are reshaping the working world, but it’s what they’re doing in their personal lives that could really change our culture for years to come. According to author and diversity expert Jack Myers, millennials and…
Episode 22: The Generational Gender Shift — Jack Myers On Gen Z & Masculinity
Times are changing. Especially in terms of our society’s attitudes about traditional gender roles. For some, times can’t change fast enough. They are eager for a time when we’ll finally be free from the personal and professional limitations that result…
Practical & Tactical Tips: The Games We Play & Escaping Adulthood (Episode 21)
“Adult.” No longer just a noun or an adjective, the word has recently even become a verb, encompassing all of those activities that make adult life so dreary. As in, “I can’t adult today. Please don’t make me adult.” But…
Episode 21: The Games We Play – Escaping Adulthood with Jason Kotecki
In 2016, the word “adulting” was officially introduced in our lexicon when it became a top contender for Oxford Dictionaries Word of The Year. “Adulting” is defined as “the practice of behaving in a way characteristic of a responsible adult,…
Practical & Tactical Tips: Power, Porn, and Patriarchy (Episode 20)
“In the last ten years especially, there has been a more pro-pornography, feminist, sort of approach to not just pornography but women owning their sexuality,” Dan explains in this week’s episode of The Man Rules podcast, “and that, in many…
Episode 20: Power, Porn, and Patriarchy – Dr. Robert Jensen on Sex & Masculinity
Imagine your life without porn. No, really. Try. What do you think would happen if you did turn off the porn for a while? Would you start to think more about the role that sex plays in your life? Would…
Practical & Tactical Tips: Healing The Mother Wound (Episode 19)
If it’s not one thing, it’s your mother! The late, great Robin Williams put it so well: Sometimes you aren’t even aware of how deeply your experiences with your mother – or lack thereof – could be affecting your life…
Episode 19: If It’s Not One Thing, It’s Your Mother
When you were growing up, did you feel like your mother was there to help meet your needs or did you feel like you were there to meet hers? (After all, it can’t be a coincidence that the word “smother”…
Practical & Tactical Tips: Where To Find Help With Anger (Episode 18)
If you find yourself lashing out in ways that you don’t understand and certainly never expected, there’s hope. You don’t have to live that way any more. Dan explores the roots of anger issues — and how to heal them…
Episode 18: What’s Wrong With You? Men & Anger
Hurt people hurt people. Then, they feel ashamed that they hurt people, which makes them hurt more, and then feel more ashamed, which makes them hurt more people. It’s a horrible cycle that has been destroying men and their families…
The Man Rules Podcast – A Recap
For several weeks now, we’ve been bringing you fresh episodes of The Man Rules, a podcast about supporting men through their successes and struggles. What do you think so far? Here’s a quick recap of the core issues we’ve been exploring….
Practical & Tactical Tips: Gay Men & Their Fathers (Episode 16)
To close out Father’s Month, jazz pianist Tim Clausen joined Dan to talk about the specific ways in which gay men negotiate their relationships with their dads. From the pressure of impossible expectations, to the heartbreak of being rejected after…
Episode 16: Living in Broken Time — Jazz Pianist Tim Clausen on Gay Men and Their Fathers
When jazz musicians play in broken time, they improvise their own rhythms where the beat is not explicitly laid out for them. In his latest, soon-to-be-released book, jazz pianist and author Tim Clausen captures the stories of gay men from…
Episode 17: The Deep Guys Explore New Fatherhood Frontiers
Men today tend to have much different expectations for themselves as fathers than previous generations did. Gone, for the most part, are the days where a man could simply put food on the table and feel that he was successfully…
Practical & Tactical Tips: The Evolution Of Dad (Episode 15)
It’s not just women who struggle with the concept of “having it all.” Now more than ever, modern dads are figuring out their own work/life balancing act, negotiating the pressures of the traditional “provider” role with a desire to be a present parent. Filmmaker Dana…
Episode 15: The Evolution of Dad, with Filmmaker Dana Glazer
When filmmaker Dana Glazer’s first child was born, he felt absolutely elated about being a dad. But, when he chose to prioritize fatherhood over his career, he began to feel conflicted. Though he found the time he spent caring for…
Practical & Tactical Tips: The Father Wound (Episode 14)
Is it ever truly possible to heal from the effects of having a less-than-nurturing or even fully absent father? In this episode of The Man Rules podcast, Dan and guest Rick Belden share their own experiences with the complex emotional scarring…
Episode 14: When His Best Was Not Enough — The Father Wound, with Rick Belden
Your father did the best he could. But, what if his best wasn’t good enough? What if his best still left you ashamed, angry, and grieving, years and years after you stopped living under his roof? What if he was…
Practical & Tactical Tips: Fear Of The Dad You Could Be (Episode 13)
In this episode of The Man Rules podcast, I sat down with author Jeremy Smith for fatherhood tips in an exploration of how dads can make fatherhood an intentional choice — and not just something that happens to them. Modern fatherhood truly can…
Episode 13: Fear Of The Dad You Could Be, with Guest Jeremy Smith
Our grandfathers knew exactly what was expected of them in their roles as fathers: go to work, put food on the table, step in and provide discipline when the kids are especially unruly. But, today, the expectations for dads are…
You Cheated. Now What? – Episode 7
If there’s one thing that Rob Weiss, MSW, knows for sure from his more than 25 years as therapist and sexologist, it’s that men don’t respond well to bullshit. That’s why his new book “Out of the Doghouse” takes care…
Standing on the Shoulders of Giants – Episode 6
John Lee has been at the forefront of the movement to help men with their health, psychological and spiritual well-being and recovery for decades. He has written 23 books on men’s issues, recovery, anger, grief, relationship, creativity, and spirituality. He…
Episode 5: When Life Busts Your Balls, with Dr. Jon Caldwell
When Dr. Jon Caldwell, a psychiatrist and Medical Director for Meadows Behavioral Healthcare, was a kid he worked at a golf course where his job was to pick up golf balls in the rough and take them back to the…
Episode 4: Breaking the Code of Disconnection with Terry Real
Terry Real was talking about men and intimacy before it was cool. Seriously, this guy has been a thought leader in helping men break out of the bondage of the Man Rules for three decades. If you care about men…
Easy Going Dan and The Deep Dive Guys (Episode 3)
“Easy Going Dan and The Deep Dive Guys”? Is that the name of that hip new rock band all the kids are listening to these days?” Not quite. (Although that would be an awesome band name!) One of our goals…
Practical & Tactical Tips: How To Build Better Relationships, with Dr. Allen Berger (Episode 2)
Can we be goofy and still be all right? Dr. Allen Berger shares his own experiences on the journey of self-discovery with Dan, explaining how to recover from trauma and addiction to escape the mental and spiritual prisons of your past….
Episode Two: Can We Be Goofy & Still Be All Right? With Dr. Allen Berger
The most interesting thing about Dr. Allen Berger isn’t where he’s been – though he’s definitely been a few places. It’s where he’s come back from. After the traumatic loss of his father at age 11, Allen developed a drinking…
Episode 1: How’s The Water? A Man Rules Primer
So much has changed in regards to how we expect men and women to show up in the last few decades. All too often, as men, we’re tossed into The Water and told to sink or swim. For any struggle…
The Man Rules Podcast – It’s Here!
I can’t believe it’s almost here. After weeks of planning, scheduling and recording we are finally set to launch our first episodes of The Man Rules podcast on May 1st. Here’s a little preview of Episode 1, where I set…
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