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November 8, 2019Dan GriffinThe Man Rules Podcastconscious masculinity, Dan Griffin, the man rules

Welp. Here we are. The final episode of The Man Rules podcast. Dan and Andrea (the show’s producer) take the opportunity to reminisce, reflect, and ruminate on what might be next… Sometimes, abundance comes from letting go. You’ve gotta make…

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What Men Would Tell You… About Having All The Answers

November 6, 2019Dan GriffinThe Man Rules Podcastallen berger, conscious masculinity, Dan Griffin, relationships, the man rules, what men would tell you

There’s no tenure for manhood. The false promise of The Man Rules is that if you follow them closely enough, for long enough, you will soon rest easy in your identity as a man. But, the truth is, a man’s…

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Childhood Heroes and Personal Mythologies

October 24, 2019Dan GriffinThe Man Rules Podcastchildhood, conscious masculinity, Dan Griffin, personal mythology, rick belden, the man rules

All stories we relate to are based either on our wishes or on our fears. Sometimes–or maybe even often–both. That’s what makes this week’s episode with friend of the show Rick Belden such a powerful one. Rick leads Dan through…

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Coping with Changing Gender Expectations

October 9, 2019Dan GriffinThe Man Rules Podcastamerican psychological association, conscious masculinity, Dan Griffin, michael levittan, the man rules

This week, friend of the show Dr. Michael Levittan is back to help us sort through the many changes in our expectations of men and women over the years, and how psychology and psychotherapy have played a role in helping…

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All Good Things Must Come to An End

September 30, 2019Dan GriffinThe Man Rules Podcastchange, conscious masculinity, Dan Griffin, the man rules

After more than two years of operation, we have made the difficult decision to end production of The Man Rules podcast. So, this week Dan’s solo episode–his last solo episode–is about what it means to embrace change. One thing we…

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How to Stay Sober AF

September 23, 2019Dan GriffinThe Man Rules Podcastaddiction, conscious masculinity, Dan Griffin, duke rumely, recovery, sober af, sobriety, the man rules

Early sobriety can be lonely. Many people recovering from alcohol and other substance use disorders find that they have to change their entire social structure. And, that’s not something that happens overnight. It takes time to develop an entirely new…

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What Men Would Tell You… About Winning

September 17, 2019Dan GriffinThe Man Rules Podcastallen berger, conscious masculinity, Dan Griffin, the man rules, the winning rule, what men would tell you

“If you’re not first, you’re last.” That’s the mantra of Ricky Bobby, a champion NASCAR driver (played by Will Ferrell) in the cinematic masterpiece, Talledega Nights. The great thing about that quote, and about the movie, is that it gently…

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Leggo my Ego

September 11, 2019Dan GriffinThe Man Rules PodcastDan Griffin, ego, lou cox, psychology, the man rules

  Dr. Lou Cox has studied the ego for decades. He joins Dan to talk about his work and his new book, Ego: The Ghost in Your Machinery. Specifically, he and Dan talk about the male ego and how men…

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Support the Podcast

September 3, 2019Dan GriffinThe Man Rules Podcastconscious masculinity, Dan Griffin, Podcast, support, the man rules

This week, Dan’s back with an update on our makeshift pledge drive. We hear from Noah, a longtime listener who has pledged his support, and Dan makes a case for you all to be like Noah. (If you can.) Would…

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Loving Like You Mean It

August 27, 2019Dan GriffinThe Man Rules Podcastattachment style, conscious masculinity, Dan Griffin, relationships, ron frederick, the man rules

Chances are, you’ve had several relationships throughout your life. Some are ongoing (friends, family, etc.) Some ended. (boyfriends/girlfriends, spouses, lovers.) Some maybe even ended badly. If you reflect on the relationships that ended badly, and on the times in your…

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Help! We Need Somebody…

August 5, 2019Dan GriffinThe Man Rules Podcast, UncategorizedDan Griffin, Help, self-supporting, sponsorship, The Beatles, The Man Rules podcast

I love doing The Man Rules podcast! I have learned and grown so much as a result. We’ve been producing episodes of The Man Rules podcast every week for almost 2.5 years now. It’s been an honor to provide this…

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What is Love?

July 22, 2019Dan GriffinThe Man Rules Podcastconscious masculinity, Dan Griffin, love, Michael Mcgee, mindfulness, the man rules

Is love a feeling or an action? Is it a choice we make, or is the result of a magical bond with another person that is impossible to explain? Do you decide to be a loving person, or are you…

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What Men Would Tell You…About Sex

July 17, 2019Dan GriffinThe Man Rules Podcastallen berger, conscious masculinity, Dan Griffin, relationships, sex, the man rules, what men would tell you if they weren't too busy watching tv

“If it’s true that men want sex 24/7, what does it mean if he won’t have sex with me?” “Why won’t he engage in foreplay before sex or cuddling after? There’s no affection or intimacy.” “Why is sex only about…

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Doing The Work with Byron Katie

July 9, 2019Dan GriffinThe Man Rules Podcastbyron katie, conscious masculinity, Dan Griffin, the man rules, the work

Look around your local gym long enough, and you’re likely to see the phrase “Pain is inevitable. Suffering is optional,” emblazoned on a bumper sticker, a T-shirt, or a bicep in the form of a tattoo. It’s one thing to…

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Let’s Talk About Sex

July 3, 2019Dan GriffinThe Man Rules Podcastconscious masculinity, Dan Griffin, sex, sexuality, the man rules

Our culture is weird about sex. We’re surrounded by allusions to it constantly–in our advertisements, TV shows, movies, music, websites–but it’s rare for any of those mediums to address it in a way that isn’t salacious or jokey. It’s rare…

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A Deep Dive with a Stay-at-Home Dad

June 26, 2019Dan GriffinThe Man Rules Podcastconscious masculinity, Dan Griffin, fathers, nate brewer, parenting, stay at home dad

Men’s experiences as fathers are more varied than popular culture would have you believe. Although the doors are beginning to open a little wider for men who want to take on duties that were traditionally only part of Mom’s domain,…

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What Men Would Tell You… About Their Fathers

June 17, 2019Dan GriffinThe Man Rules Podcastallen berger, conscious masculinity, Dan Griffin, fathers, parenting, the man rules, what men would tell you

When we become fathers, so many of our choices are reactions to how our fathers raised us. We often either fall in line with his expectations, or rebel against them. Either way, we aren’t really making our own choices, based…

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Gay Men and Their Fathers

June 10, 2019Dan GriffinThe Man Rules Podcastconscious masculinity, Dan Griffin, father's day, fathers, gay men, lgbtq, parenting, the man rules, tim clausen

In honor of both Father’s Month and Pride Month, we’re replaying this episode from 2018, featuring the late Tim Clausen. Tim interviewed more than 80 men for his book Not the Son He Expected: Gay Men Talk Candidly About Their…

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Fathers Failing Forward

June 7, 2019Dan Griffinarchive 1, The Man Rules Podcastconscious masculinity, Dan Griffin, fathers, parenting, the man rules

It’s not easy being a dad–at least not all the time. There were no manuals. No instruction. No classes. Not really. And so, as Dan says all the time, we do it imperfectly. We try to parent consciously, but we…

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Doing It, Consciously

May 29, 2019Dan Griffinarchive 1, The Man Rules Podcastcam fraser, conscious masculinity, Dan Griffin, sex, tantric, the man rules, yoga

When you have sex (or masturbate) do you have a goal in mind? Do you approach each sexual encounter with an unconscious strategy toward the endgame? (C’MON OF COURSE YOU DO.) Cam Fraser, a certified sexologist, Yoga teacher, and pioneer…

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What Men Would Tell You…About Being Cool

May 21, 2019Dan Griffinarchive 1, The Man Rules Podcastallen berger, conscious masculinity, Dan Griffin, the man rules, what men would tell you

Being “cool” is ultimately about fitting in. And, unfortunately, one of the requirements of fitting in for most men–whether their definition of “cool” leans more toward the Jock table or the Dungeons ‘n Dragons table–is pretending that you have no…

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The Unspoken Legacy of Emotional Trauma

May 14, 2019Dan Griffinarchive 1, The Man Rules Podcastaddiction, claudia black, conscious masculinity, Dan Griffin, family systems, the man rules, trauma

It was a true honor to have Claudia Black, a pioneer in the study of the impact alcoholism has on families, join us on The Man Rules podcast. Claudia has dedicated her life to looking at the impact of trauma…

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What to Do When You’re Sick of It

May 6, 2019Dan Griffinarchive 1, The Man Rules Podcastconscious masculinity, Dan Griffin, recovery, rest, self-care, The Man Rules podcast

Listeners of The Man Rules podcast tend to be types who, in one way or another, want to live better. They want to free themselves from the limitations placed on them by society’s rules for how men should behave. They…

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Daddy Download: Awesome Dads Know Their Story

April 29, 2019Dan Griffinarchive 1, The Man Rules Podcastconscious masculinity, daddy download, Dan Griffin, fatherhood, fathers, parenting, the man rules

Everyone told you being a Dad would be hard, right? Many probably even said, “Nothing can prepare you…” And, man, they were so right. There’s nothing we can tell you to make the transition to being a new Dad a…

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What is Sex For?

April 22, 2019Dan GriffinThe Man Rules Podcastalexandra katehakis, conscious masculinity, Dan Griffin, intimacy, relationships, sex, the man rules

What is sex for? Have you ever asked yourself that question? You may think, “procreation, of course” but that doesn’t explain why people who don’t want kids have sex. If you say, “fun and pleasure,” that doesn’t explain why, for…

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What Men Would Tell You… About Fighting

April 16, 2019Dan GriffinThe Man Rules Podcastaggression, allen berger, conscious masculinity, Dan Griffin, men, the man rules, violence, what men would tell you

  As a kid, you probably wanted to be cool. And if you were a boy, being cool meant being tough. Being tough meant being able to fight and win. If you weren’t tough, you immediately felt inadequate. You weren’t…

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Money Matters: Talking Finance with Marty McAlpin

April 9, 2019Dan GriffinThe Man Rules Podcastconscious masculinity, Dan Griffin, finance, marty mcalpin, money, shame, the man rules

Money. Everybody wants it; nobody wants to talk about it. Except Dan, of course, and his friend and financial advisor Marty McAlpin. In this episode, they give an overview of various money disorders and help us increase our financial vocabulary….

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Why Men Fight

April 2, 2019Dan GriffinThe Man Rules Podcastaggression, conscious masculinity, Dan Griffin, fighting, Podcast, the man rules, violence

If you’re a man, chances are, at some point when you were a boy, a man in your family made a conscious effort to teach you how to properly throw a punch. That was a skill you would need as…

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Daddy Download: The New Rules for Dads

March 29, 2019Dan GriffinThe Man Rules Podcastconscious masculinity, dads, Dan Griffin, fathers, parenting, the man rules

The rules have changed for being a Dad. There’s a lot of pressure these days for men to be more emotionally involved in parenting than their Dads were. But without role models, guidance and support for making these radical changes,…

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Men and Mortality

March 25, 2019Dan GriffinThe Man Rules Podcastconscious masculinity, Dan Griffin, death, mortality, osteoporosis, rick belden, the man rules

One of  the most frequently mentioned Man Rules is “don’t be weak.” As a result, many men end up feeling ashamed when they become ill or injured. “Don’t be weak” may also be at the heart of a man’s resistance…

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What Men Would Tell You… About Being a Protector

March 18, 2019Dan GriffinThe Man Rules Podcastallen berger, conscious masculinity, Dan Griffin, protector rule, relationships, the man rules, what men would tell you

Once a month, Dan and Dr. Allen Berger sit down to talk about a chapter from their forthcoming book, What Men Would Tell You…If We Weren’t Too Busy Watching TV. The title of the book is meant to be humorous,…

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Keep It Clean

March 11, 2019Dan GriffinThe Man Rules Podcastconscious masculinity, Dan Griffin, household chores, Marie Kondo, relationships, the man rules

Once  Tidying up with Marie Kondo hit Netflix this past January, it seemed like everyone was suddenly talking about the real impact of household upkeep on our minds, bodies, and spirits. Of course, conversations about the division of household labor…

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Poop Shoe

March 4, 2019Dan GriffinThe Man Rules Podcastconscious masculinity, Dan Griffin, empathy, rio de janeiro, scam, the man rules

Dan traveled to Rio de Janeiro and really stepped in it. Well, except he didn’t really step in it. He just thought he did. You’re really going to have to listen to him explain this one. Then, go to Dan’s Facebook…

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How’s The Water?

February 25, 2019Dan GriffinThe Man Rules Podcastconscious masculinity, Dan Griffin, the man rules, the water

All too often men are tossed into The Water and told to sink or swim. For any struggle we face, we’re often given some version of the same, age-old advice: “Man Up.” (What the hell does that even mean? Especially…

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Why Aren’t I Happy? Men and Depression

February 18, 2019Dan GriffinThe Man Rules Podcastconscious masculinity, Dan Griffin, depression, Podcast, terry real, the man rules

Men are four times more likely to die by suicide than women, and their depression is more likely to manifest as anger and violence. As this week’s guest, Terry Real, puts it men either feel that they are failing the…

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Beyond Consent: Building a Culture of Mutuality

February 11, 2019Dan GriffinThe Man Rules PodcastAziz Ansari, conscious masculinity, consent, Dan Griffin, Mike Domritz, sex, the man rules

This is a replay of one of our favorite episodes. If you feel frustrated by discussions about consent and sexual morality, this is definitely one you won’t want to miss… Why are so many of us confused about consent? The…

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Not as Seen on TV

February 4, 2019Dan GriffinThe Man Rules Podcastandrew smiler, conscious masculinity, Dan Griffin, media, men, the man rules, TV

This episode is a replay of one we first posted in back in 2017. Gillette’s recent “Toxic Masculinity” ad recently brought ideas about the ways in which men are portrayed in popular media to the mainstream. Dr. Andrew Smiler has…

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Get it Together, Man

January 28, 2019Dan GriffinThe Man Rules Podcastconscious masculinity, Dan Griffin, darcy luoma, man rules, organizing, priorities, thoughtfully fit

As we near the end of January, we often also near the end or our resolve to finally get our shit together this year. We made our resolutions because we know that the feeling of being perpetually disorganized and out…

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Keeping it 100

January 14, 2019Dan GriffinThe Man Rules PodcastDan Griffin, gender, goals, masculinity, men, Podcast, the man rules

Is “keeping it 100” a thing people still say these days? Many eons ago, back in 2015, it meant “to be you, be honest, be true to yourself and the people you love, be unapologetic but respectful at the same…

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Making Habits Last

January 7, 2019Dan GriffinThe Man Rules PodcastDan Griffin, healthy habits, implementing positive changes, lasting change, personal growth, the man rules

For many of us, vowing to change our habits at the beginning of a New Year has become, well… a habit. Unfortunately, all of the hope and good intentions we have on December 31st, rarely sustains us past the second…

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Santa Gets Real

December 24, 2018Dan GriffinThe Man Rules Podcastchanging gender expectations, christmas, Dan Griffin, examining gender roles, letting go of perfectionism and shame, marriage, masculinity, Santa

We all have a story about what it means to be a man. What we aim to do on The Man Rules podcast is to help each other figure out how we can be the authors of our stories. We…

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12 Stupid Things You Can Do to Mess Up The Holidays

December 18, 2018Dan GriffinThe Man Rules PodcastDan Griffin, dealing with holiday stress, family, holidays, male self-awareness, recovery, relationships, self-care

Okay, you’ve requested your time off from the boss, booked the plane tickets, sent the cards, bought the presents, and baked the cookies –or completed any number of your traditional holiday tasks. So, you may think that you’re ready for…

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Get What You Expect

December 10, 2018Dan GriffinThe Man Rules Podcastcommunication in relationships, Dan Griffin, expectations, improving personal relationships, The Man Rules podcast

In this episode, Dan is finally going to tell you the secret to always getting what you want, when you want it. And the secret is… Let go of the idea that you should always get what you want when…

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How to Have a Happy Holiday—Yes, Really.

December 3, 2018Dan GriffinThe Man Rules PodcastDan Griffin, dealing with family drama, family, holidays, personal growth, relationships, Tim Walsh

The holidays truly are magical. They have the power to magically transform fully functioning adults back into their adolescent selves, the moment they step into a room with their parents, siblings, aunts, uncles, and/or cousins. No matter how much you’ve…

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What Men Would Tell You…About Vulnerability

November 26, 2018Dan GriffinThe Man Rules PodcastDan Griffin, emotional courage, healthy vs unhealthy vulnerability, Personal connection, the man rules, vulnerability

There are two ways we tend to think about vulnerability these days. The first is in terms of our technology. When websites like Facebook experience a data breach, we are reminded that our personal information is “vulnerable” to hackers. (That’s…

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Transformers

November 19, 2018Dan GriffinThe Man Rules Podcastchange, Dan Griffin, male self-awareness, men, personal growth, Real Men Real Recovery, recovery, transformation

If you think about it, nearly every story we pay attention to is one about transformation. The main character in your favorite movie likely starts out in one state, something happens, and they end up in a different state by…

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Daddy Download: Because I Said So

November 12, 2018Dan GriffinThe Man Rules Podcastconscious masculinity, dads, Dan Griffin, discipline, fatherhood, fathers, parenting, raising kids

To parent is to spend most days in a state of barely-concealed, barely-contained insecurity, if not outright terror! Our little loves trigger not only our fears for them–will they be happy, successful, productive members of society?–but also our deepest fears…

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I Object(ify)!

November 9, 2018Dan GriffinThe Man Rules Podcastconscious masculinity, Dan Griffin, masculinity, objectifying, sex, sexism, sexuality, women

I, Object(ify)   We are all sexual beings. In some ways, it’s completely natural to notice attractive people and feel…certain urges. But, when do those natural, healthy urges cross over into something unhealthy–perhaps even sinister? When and how do those…

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How to Get Over Yourself

October 30, 2018Dan GriffinThe Man Rules PodcastDan Griffin, friendship, men helping men, Michael Dinneen, parenting, recovery, self transformation, spirituality, the man rules

In our monthly Deep Dive episode, Dan talks in depth with one man about how The Man Rules have impacted his life, and how he has worked toward a more conscious masculinity. This week Michael Dinneen manages to say a…

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Scheduled Maintenance For Your Soul

October 23, 2018Dan GriffinThe Man Rules PodcastDan Griffin, men and masculinity, personal growth, recovery, self-care, the man rules, Tim Harrington

This post is being brought to you from the great city of Indianapolis, where Producer Andrea lives. For those who are unfamiliar, the Indy 500 is a race where odd looking vehicles with really big tires whip around a circular…

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What Men Would Tell You… About Control

October 15, 2018Dan GriffinThe Man Rules Podcastcontrol, Dan Griffin, power, privilege, Walter Kempler, what men would tell you if they weren't too busy watching tv

Aziz Acharki What do people mean when they say that “it’s a man’s world?” They mean, in most cases, that men possess most of the power and control in our society. But, what does that mean? Most men balk at…

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Daddy Download – Will We Ever Have Sex Again?

October 11, 2018Dan GriffinThe Man Rules Podcastdads, Dan Griffin, fatherhood, intimacy, relationships, sex

Everyone told you being a Dad would be hard, right? Many probably even said, “Nothing can prepare you…” And, man, they were so right. There’s nothing we can tell you to make the transition to being a new Dad a…

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Juvenile Justice

October 8, 2018Dan GriffinThe Man Rules Podcastbrett kavanaugh, christine blasey ford, Dan Griffin, gender, gender politics, sexual assault

In this episode of The Man Rules podcast, Dan and Andrea struggle along with the rest of American through a conversation about Brett Kavanaugh, gender-based privilege, and the politicization of victimhood. All of those are fancy words for some real…

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A Damn Good Man – A Tribute to Tony Marquez

September 28, 2018Dan GriffinThe Man Rules PodcastDan Griffin, grief and loss, Male friendships, The Man Rules podcast, Tony Marquez

The Man Rules Podcast has been blessed to have our producer, Andrea Sauceda, since we began in May 2017. We are a small podcast with very little budget and she has given her time graciously and generously. She is taking…

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What Men Would Tell You… About Crying

September 17, 2018Dan GriffinThe Man Rules PodcastDan Griffin, don't cry, emotional courage, men and masculinity, men are from mars, men's mental health, the man rules, vulnerability, what men would tell you if they weren't too busy watching tv

The Man Rules Podcast has been blessed to have our producer, Andrea Sauceda, since we began in May 2017. We are a small podcast with very little budget and she has given her time graciously and generously. She is taking…

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In Like a Lamb, Out Like a Lion

September 13, 2018Dan GriffinThe Man Rules PodcastCircle Jerk – Lessons of Manhood My Father Never Taught Me, conscious masculinity, conscious men, cooking, Dan Griffin, fatherhood, MAN-ifesto Radio podcast, men, men after #metoo, successful relationships, The Morning MAN-ifesto

The Man Rules Podcast has been blessed to have our producer, Andrea Sauceda, since we began in May 2017. We are a small podcast with very little budget and she has given her time graciously and generously. She is taking…

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The Bullet & The Butterfly Wings

September 4, 2018Dan GriffinThe Man Rules Podcastcar accident, Dan Griffin, emotional openness, life lessons, men's emotions, rage, smashing pumpkins, spirituality, the butterfly effect

The Man Rules Podcast has been blessed to have our producer, Andrea Sauceda, since we began in May 2017. We are a small podcast with very little budget and she has given her time graciously and generously. She is taking…

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Waking Up: A Deep Dive with Chris Cole

August 28, 2018Dan Griffinarchive 1, The Man Rules Podcastchris cole, Dan Griffin, disordered eating, emotional courage, male body image issues, masculinity, men meditating, mental health, waking up bipolar

In The Man Rules Deep Dive episodes, Dan talks to one man about his particular experiences coming to terms with some facet of his identity as a man. This month, our Deep Dive guest is Chris Cole, author, life coach,…

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What Men Would Tell You… If They Weren’t Too Busy Watching TV

August 20, 2018Dan Griffinarchive 1, The Man Rules PodcastDan Griffin, gender, marriage, relationship advice, relationship tips, relationships, women, women understanding men

Everyone is interested in how men and women can get along these days. The model Allen and Dan offer is different. No more “we’re from different planets.” As our regular listeners know, Dan is working on a new book, What…

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Daddy Download – What About Me?

August 13, 2018Dan Griffinarchive 1, The Man Rules Podcastdads, Dan Griffin, fathers, men's feelings, new dads, newborns

Everyone told you being a Dad would be hard, right? Many probably even said, “Nothing can prepare you…” And, man, they were so right. There’s nothing we can tell you to make the transition to being a new Dad a…

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A Tribute to Tim Clausen

August 9, 2018Dan Griffinarchive 1, The Man Rules PodcastDan Griffin, emotional courage, fathers, fathers and sons, gay fathers, gay men and their fathers, male emotional authenticity, parenting, the man rules, tim clausen

Tim Clausen, author, jazz musician, and friend of The Man Rules podcast,  passed away on July 29. Tim was on a mission to help men—especially gay men—find their voices, find peace, and find love in all of its many forms….

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I Love You…Man

July 30, 2018Dan Griffinarchive 1, The Man Rules Podcastbromance, Dan Griffin, friends, love, men, men and masculinity, relationships, vulnerability

It’s rarely easy for any of us to say “I love you” for the first time. But, this can be especially true when one straight guy loves another straight guy. Of course, those times are changing. Especially thanks to your…

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What Men Would Tell You… About Women

July 23, 2018Dan Griffinarchive 1, The Man Rules PodcastDan Griffin, dating, Dr. Walter Kempler, gender, marriage, men, men are from mars, relationships, the man rules, women, women are from venus

It’s been said that men are women are from totally different planets. All of the struggles they have in relating to one another are a result of the fact that they are just two totally different species, and the only…

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RecomMENded Reading – May

May 25, 2018Dan GriffinA Mans WayDan Griffin, depression, intimacy, john lee, rage, relationships, terry real

If you want to change old patterns of thought and behavior—like choosing more consciously how The Man Rules fit into your life—you’re going to need to broaden your perspective and gain some personal insight. There’s no better way to do…

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It’s the First Anniversary of The Man Rules Podcast!

April 30, 2018Dan Griffinarchive 1, The Man Rules PodcastDan Griffin, Podcast, the man rules

When we started The Man Rules podcast one year ago, we had no idea what we were doing. We knew that we wanted to offer a self-improvement resource for men that went way beyond the whole, “how to get laid,…

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Muddy Waters – Episode 56

March 26, 2018Dan Griffinarchive 1, archive 2, The Man Rules Podcastcivil rights, Dan Griffin, equality, mary woods, men, men's mental health, social justice, the man rules, the water, westbridge, women

A major shift is happening in how we view gender, sexuality and violence. Many people, like our guest Mary Woods, see echoes of the 60s civil rights movements in this modern era of protest and consciousness raising. But, many men…

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What’s Left When It All Falls Away – Episode 51

February 19, 2018Dan Griffinarchive 1, archive 2, The Man Rules PodcastDan Griffin, jason Mackenzie, men, mental health, mental health warriors, problem drinking, problematic substance use, recovery, shame, substance use disorder, the man rules, vulnerability

For Jason MacKenzie, everything was going as planned. He had a great job, a beautiful wife, two kids, a nice house, and a nice car. So, how did he one day find himself, widowed, and drinking until he passed out…

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Episode 45: Go Coach Yourself!

January 8, 2018Dan Griffinarchive 2, archive 3conflict resolution, conscious masculinity, Dan Griffin, darcy luoma, fitness, goals, life, mental health, Podcast, relationships, resolutions, spiritual health, the man rules, thoughtfully fit

Happy New Year! And welcome to the annual tradition of making resolutions without much resolve. This year, though, could really be your year. Instead of relying on willpower to achieve your goals, rely on a framework for positive change, like…

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Episode 43: Dueling with Dualities

December 19, 2017Dan Griffinarchive 2Dan Griffin, gender equality, Podcast, sex addiction, sexual misconduct, sexuality, the man rules

“Things can be true on one level, and on another, not true at all. Wisdom is to know how to hear and see on different levels at the same time.”  – Richard Rohr Let’s think about the typical life cycle…

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Episode 42: Men Overboard, Cheryl Sharp on Navigating the #MeToo Sea Change

December 11, 2017Dan Griffinarchive 2cheryl sharp, communication, Dan Griffin, male libido, men, relationships, sexual harassment, sexual misconduct, sexual trauma, The Man Rules podcast, women

Cheryl Sharp is an expert on trauma and resilience and a lifelong sailor. So, she knows a thing or two about dealing with rough waters, literally and figuratively. In this episode, she and Dan talk about the stunning cultural tsunami…

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Episode 40: The Polarity Express

November 27, 2017Dan GriffinThe Man Rules PodcastDan Griffin, feminine, intimacy, john wineland, masculine, men, relationships, sex, The Man Rules podcast

In this episode, speaker and teacher John Wineland defines masculine and feminine polarity (think magnetic fields) and their differing energies and strengths as they relate to intimacy and sex. John talks about how personal awareness of those different energies, which he labels as feminine…

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Episode 38: Beyond Boobs, Babes, and Bloodsports with Connor Beaton

November 15, 2017Dan GriffinThe Man Rules PodcastConnor Beaton, Dan Griffin, sex, success, The Man Rules podcast, vulnerability

ManTalks founder Connor Beaton has gone from construction worker to opera singer to guy who lived in his car. Like many of us, he made some bad choices and ruined multiple friendships and relationships. When his despair finally reached a…

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Episode 25: I Learned It By Watching You – Dan on the Realities of Addiction & Recovery

September 6, 2017Dan GriffinThe Man Rules PodcastDan Griffin, Podcast, recovery, the man rules

Reality can be a real buzzkill. While it’s true that most people can drink alcohol, use prescription pain killers, and even experiment with recreational drugs without becoming addicted, it’s also true that one in seven people in the United States…

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Episode 14: When His Best Was Not Enough — The Father Wound, with Rick Belden

June 23, 2017Dan GriffinThe Man Rules PodcastDan Griffin, Podcast, the man rules

Your father did the best he could. But, what if his best wasn’t good enough? What if his best still left you ashamed, angry, and grieving, years and years after you stopped living under his roof? What if he was…

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Practical & Tactical Tips: Fear Of The Dad You Could Be (Episode 13)

June 21, 2017Dan GriffinThe Man Rules PodcastDan Griffin, Podcast, the man rules

In this episode of The Man Rules podcast, I sat down with author Jeremy Smith for fatherhood tips in an exploration of how dads can make fatherhood an intentional choice — and not just something that happens to them. Modern fatherhood truly can…

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Episode 13: Fear Of The Dad You Could Be, with Guest Jeremy Smith

June 20, 2017Dan GriffinThe Man Rules PodcastDan Griffin, Podcast, the man rules

Our grandfathers knew exactly what was expected of them in their roles as fathers: go to work, put food on the table, step in and provide discipline when the kids are especially unruly. But, today, the expectations for dads are…

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Promise #8: Self Seeking will Slip Away

March 23, 2017Dan GriffinReal Men, Real Recovery1 commentDan Griffin, Heaven, Hell, recovery, self, The Promises

I have come to appreciate the depth of this particularly Promise. A picture that I love shows two scenes: one of Heaven and one of Hell. In Hell, everyone is seated at a table with grossly elongated spoons that they…

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International Women’s Day – A Long Way to Go

March 9, 2017Dan GriffinA Mans WayDan Griffin, equalilty, feminism, international women's day, men and masculinity, women

Today is a day to celebrate the women of the world! I am a son, a son-in-law, brother, brother-in-law, a husband/partner, uncle, friend and father to a precious little girl. So I want to celebrate the women of MY life.

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Promise #7: We Will Lose Interest in Selfish Things

March 6, 2017Dan GriffinReal Men, Real RecoveryDan Griffin, hazelden, recovery, selfishness, The Promises, Twelve Steps

Are men naturally self-centered? Sure. Are women? Yes, though they may express it differently. What does it even mean to be self-centered? Mostly, it seems to mean that we are human.

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Things Fall Apart: A Man’s Way Workshop – Part 2 

March 2, 2017Dan GriffinA Mans WayDan Griffin, Griffin recovery enterprises, men and masculinity, the meadows, trauma, vulnerability

There is a perennial truth about vulnerability. True vulnerability. As silly or obvious as it may sound, it never stops feeling vulnerable. You can’t really fake it – not with yourself because when you are vulnerable you feel it.

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A Man’s Way Workshop

February 23, 2017Dan GriffinA Mans WayDan Griffin, men, recovery, Rio Retreat, the meadows, trauma, treatment

When I went to school to learn how to work with people with addictive disorders I got a lot of great guidance—Brain science. Family systems. Motivational Interviewing. Models of Change. Working with the criminal justice population. Working with women. Cultural…

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Love is Boring

February 17, 2017Dan GriffinA Mans WayDan Griffin, intimacy, love, men and masculinity, relationships, the man rules

Here is what I have concluded after thirteen years of marriage: Love is boring.

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The Man Rules & The Water

July 19, 2016Dan GriffinA Mans WayDan Griffin

Has it ever felt to you like you were following some set of unwritten rules on how to be a man? Men can do this but can’t do that. These are the Man Rules I refer to throughout my new book, A Man’s Way…

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Promise #7: We will lose interest in selfish things

May 8, 2016Dan GriffinReal MenDan Griffin, masculinity, recovery

Are men naturally self-centered? Sure. Are women? Yes, though they may express it differently. What does it even mean to be self-centered? Mostly, it seems to mean that we are human.

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The Hidden Reality of Men’s Trauma

February 11, 2016Dan GriffinA Mans WayDan Griffin

I have been writing a four-part series of blogs for Addiction Professional Magazine focusing on male trauma. I am pleased to share it with you. Below is an excerpt of the first article as well as the link for the…

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It’s A Wonderful Life

December 22, 2015Dan GriffinReal Men, Real RecoveryDan Griffin, Real Men Real Recovery

I can’t go a year without watching It’s A Wonderful Life. Just the right touch of darkness with a powerful and indistinguishable glowing light to always carry us through. In many ways it is the perfect recovery movie. My heart goes out…

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Promise #5: We Will See How Our Experience Can Benefit Others

December 1, 2015Dan GriffinReal Men, Real RecoveryDan Griffin, Real Men Real Recovery

The hallmark of Twelve-Step recovery is sharing our experience, strength, and hope. This, of course, implies that you have something worth sharing. Regardless of how I acted and how much people complimented me on my talent and skills, I often…

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Shame and Vulnerability

October 29, 2015Dan GriffinA Mans WayDan Griffin

It seems that the longer I am on this journey toward my authentic self and being the best man I can be the more in touch I become with the degree to which shame has informed my identity and the…

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Promise #4: We will comprehend the word serenity and we will know peace

October 11, 2015Dan GriffinReal Men, Real RecoveryDan Griffin, Real Men Real Recovery

Dear Reader – In the past months I have been busy working on two my latest books and as a result I neglected to keep up with my blog. Thanks for your interest and for reading! I was seven years…

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Promise #3: We will not regret the past nor wish to shut the door on it

August 10, 2015Dan GriffinReal Men, Real RecoveryDan Griffin, Real Men Real Recovery

What man does not want to make peace with his past? How many of us enter recovery with a deep feeling of shame for how we have lived? How many of us are confused about what we have done and…

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No Man is an Island

August 6, 2015Dan GriffinA Mans WayDan Griffin

Over and over again in my recovery meetings I hear men talk about how much they do not like asking for help. We keep waiting for the time when we can handle all of it on our own. We would…

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