If you want to change old patterns of thought and behavior—like choosing more consciously how The Man Rules fit into your life—you’re going to need to broaden your perspective and gain some personal insight. There’s no better way to do…
RecomMENded Reading – May
How Podcasts Can Help Men Improve Their Relationships
Most relationship self-help books are roundly dismissed as being “for women.” And, some guys just aren’t all that into reading anyway—or so “they” say. (We wonder how much of it has to do with the fact that the books, products,…
RecomMENded Reading – April
If you want to change old patterns of thought and behavior—like choosing more consciously how The Man Rules fit into your life—you’re going to need to broaden your perspective and gain some personal insight. There’s no better way to do…
Consciousness Raising: April 2018
The first phase in bringing about positive change is raising awareness. (In other words, the first step is recognizing and admitting that there is a problem.) So, this month, and every month, we’re bringing your awareness to articles, studies, and…
Three TED Talks That Are Changing The Meaning of “Man Up”
Are we finally seeing a shift in our culture for men? These three amazing TED talks for men make me think that the answer is a resounding “yes.” We still have a long way to go, but as long as…
Mutual Respect & The Power of Intimacy
Power is a very interesting phenomenon. I remember having numerous conversations about the complex intersection of power and relationships in graduate school. There was a lot of confusion as to what exactly power even is. One of the most common…
International Women’s Day – A Long Way to Go
Today is a day to celebrate the women of the world! I am a son, a son-in-law, brother, brother-in-law, a husband/partner, uncle, friend and father to a precious little girl. So I want to celebrate the women of MY life.
Things Fall Apart: A Man’s Way Workshop – Part 2
There is a perennial truth about vulnerability. True vulnerability. As silly or obvious as it may sound, it never stops feeling vulnerable. You can’t really fake it – not with yourself because when you are vulnerable you feel it.
A Man’s Way Workshop
When I went to school to learn how to work with people with addictive disorders I got a lot of great guidance—Brain science. Family systems. Motivational Interviewing. Models of Change. Working with the criminal justice population. Working with women. Cultural…
Love is Boring
Here is what I have concluded after thirteen years of marriage: Love is boring.
I Don’t Want to Write a Blog!
Apparently the title of this blog is true. I can’t even remember the last time I wrote a blog. In fact, after deciding with a friend (and fellow blogger) to write my blog it has taken me over a week…
The Man Rules & The Water
Has it ever felt to you like you were following some set of unwritten rules on how to be a man? Men can do this but can’t do that. These are the Man Rules I refer to throughout my new book, A Man’s Way…
The Hidden Reality of Men’s Trauma
I have been writing a four-part series of blogs for Addiction Professional Magazine focusing on male trauma. I am pleased to share it with you. Below is an excerpt of the first article as well as the link for the…
Shame and Vulnerability
It seems that the longer I am on this journey toward my authentic self and being the best man I can be the more in touch I become with the degree to which shame has informed my identity and the…
No Man is an Island
Over and over again in my recovery meetings I hear men talk about how much they do not like asking for help. We keep waiting for the time when we can handle all of it on our own. We would…
7 Rules for Men on Vacation
I’m actually on vacation right now. As I write this. I have been paying attention to each and every one of these Rules for the past four days. Overall, I would give myself a B+. The truth is that we…
Staying in Healthy Relationships
A running joke in our training’s is that the issue for men is not whether or not we can get into relationships. Men have no problem getting into a relationship! The real challenge is staying in relationships. And given everything…
Father’s Day 2015 Part II: From a Son
I hated my father for a very long time. Of course, when we are honest with ourselves most of our hate comes out of deep hurt. And that is exactly what it was for me: I felt deeply hurt that…
Father’s Day 2015 Part I: From a Father
I love being a father. It is truly one of the greatest experiences of my life. I am only six years into this journey and I have grown and changed so much as a result of my beautiful daughter, Grace,…
Manly Feelings
One of the great Man Rules™ is: Don’t feel. Of course, it is actually men aren’t allowed to feel anything other than anger. It is not manly to express the “softer” feelings. We learn it very early and often brutally and that…
Do You Know the Story of Your Life is the Greatest Story Ever Told
We all have our stories. Every man has his story of how he has become the man he is today. Yet, we do not always put a lot of time into knowing our story – or sharing it with others. …
Men, Relationships, and Trauma
The role of trauma in men’s relationships is interesting – to say the least. What is so difficult about it is how hidden it can be. I have learned a lot about trauma in the past decade. Before then, despite…
Learning to Love and Be Loved
The most important word in the title of my book, A Man’s Way through Relationships: Learning to Love and Be Loved is learning. This means it is a process. I think it is a never-ending process. I did not write the book…
A Man’s Way through Relationships
Check out the New Book! A Man’s Way Through Relationships: Learning to Love and Be Loved Author: Dan Griffin, MA An essential guide to the challenges men face in creating healthy and engaged in relationship in all areas of their…
Creating Healthy Relationships
For the longest time of my early recovery I wanted someone to love. I do not mean just to have sex with. My heart longed for connection. And I never thought I would find it. Once I started actually dating…