It was a true honor to have Claudia Black, a pioneer in the study of the impact alcoholism has on families, join us on The Man Rules podcast. Claudia has dedicated her life to looking at the impact of trauma…
The Unspoken Legacy of Emotional Trauma
Dear Dad: Write a Letter to Transform Your Relationship With Your Father
You have issues with your Dad. Whether you have a great, not-so-great, contentious, or non-existent relationship with him, there are bound to be some pain points that you’ve never talked to him or anyone else about. That’s why this…
Consciousness Raising: April 2018
The first phase in bringing about positive change is raising awareness. (In other words, the first step is recognizing and admitting that there is a problem.) So, this month, and every month, we’re bringing your awareness to articles, studies, and…
Can You Change the Past? – Episode 54
What kind of man do you want to be? And, what’s keeping you from being that man? Chances are, one of the things getting in that way is unresolved pain from the past. “Ah, horse shit!” you say. “I can’t…
Episode 41: Gender Jiu-Jitsu with Dr. Jamie Marich
Jiu-Jitsu is a martial art that “promotes the concept that a smaller, weaker person can successfully defend themselves or another against a bigger, stronger, heavier assailant by using proper technique, leverage, and most notably, by taking the fight to the ground.”…
Episode 20: Power, Porn, and Patriarchy – Dr. Robert Jensen on Sex & Masculinity
Imagine your life without porn. No, really. Try. What do you think would happen if you did turn off the porn for a while? Would you start to think more about the role that sex plays in your life? Would…
Episode 18: What’s Wrong With You? Men & Anger
Hurt people hurt people. Then, they feel ashamed that they hurt people, which makes them hurt more, and then feel more ashamed, which makes them hurt more people. It’s a horrible cycle that has been destroying men and their families…
Episode 5: When Life Busts Your Balls, with Dr. Jon Caldwell
When Dr. Jon Caldwell, a psychiatrist and Medical Director for Meadows Behavioral Healthcare, was a kid he worked at a golf course where his job was to pick up golf balls in the rough and take them back to the…
Things Fall Apart: A Man’s Way Workshop – Part 2
There is a perennial truth about vulnerability. True vulnerability. As silly or obvious as it may sound, it never stops feeling vulnerable. You can’t really fake it – not with yourself because when you are vulnerable you feel it.
A Man’s Way Workshop
When I went to school to learn how to work with people with addictive disorders I got a lot of great guidance—Brain science. Family systems. Motivational Interviewing. Models of Change. Working with the criminal justice population. Working with women. Cultural…
Promise #1: If we are painstaking about this phase of our development
When we are painstaking, or careful and diligent in our attempt, it means that through the pain, disappointment, and suffering we experience in the crucible of our recovery, we do not give up. We have some faith that this is…
We Don’t Crawl Before Anyone
Before we encounter the 9th Step Promises in the process of recovery, there is an important declaration: As God’s children we stand on our feet; we don’t crawl before anyone. I have always believed the Promises begin with this sentence. Why? Because in…
Men, Relationships, and Trauma
The role of trauma in men’s relationships is interesting – to say the least. What is so difficult about it is how hidden it can be. I have learned a lot about trauma in the past decade. Before then, despite…